Some Thoughts for After Valentine’s Day

Sugar Candy Hearts

Valentine’s Day is a fun holiday. It’s not just for sweethearts; it’s also a great opportunity to show how much you love family and friends. As a youngster, my mom would always make a special, family Valentine’s dinner. We’d have homemade hamburgers or chicken fajitas and eat in the candlelight of the kitchen. Every year, my dad always bought us stuffed animals. I still have them all, and their floppy limbs and faded coats testify to how much I loved them.

I grew up in a very loving family. So, Valentine’s Day was simply a day to accentuate the love we felt for each other. But, the older I get, the more I realize that for many, Valentine’s Day really does end on February 15th.

Yesterday, our pastor shared with us some sad truth. Within the last year, two young men we had the opportunity to impact have committed suicide. Both of them had lost love interests. Both of them had visited our church.

Our pastor was in no way condemning the congregation as he shared the tragedy of the suicides. Like us, he was simply reflecting on the sad reality that we are constantly surrounded by people who are hurting. And, 95% of the time, we don’t realize it.

It was kind of ironic (or maybe it was a God thing) that I was thinking about something along those lines as we were driving to church. I recalled a poem that talked about our oblivion to people’s pain because we can’t see beneath the happy facade these individuals so often wear.

So, on the day after Valentine’s, I’d like to leave you with this poem. Think about it. Chew on it. And let’s make a commitment together to live out love all year long, to everyone we meet.

Not Waving, But Drowning

Stevie Smith

Nobody heard him, the dead man,
But still he lay moaning:
I was much further out than you thought
And not waving but drowning.

Poor chap, he always loved larking
And now he’s dead
It must have been too cold for him his heart gave way,
They said.

Oh, no no no, it was too cold always
(Still the dead one lay moaning)
I was much too far out all my life
And not waving but drowning.


One thought on “Some Thoughts for After Valentine’s Day

  1. Very poignant poem – certainly reinforces your thoughts. I’ll remember today that they’re not waving but drowning. How our actions would differ each day with that thought.


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